I've just come back from a weekend getaway. I was somewhat surprised to see the large number of comments on my previous post, Mr Wang's Personal Trivia.
It may be apt to reiterate my basic point. Mr Wang is not specifically telling you whether you should or should not buy a car; employ a maid; live in a condo; get married; or have children.
Mr Wang is merely pointing out that there are many different possibilities in organising your life. And that the mainstream approach (whatever "mainstream" means to you) may not be optimal for you. That is all.
While there are many possible "good" ways to organise your life, there are also many "bad" ways. Then there are certain highly subjective aspects, dependent on your unique personality. Do respect yourself.
Also bear in mind that your circumstances - whatever they currently are - will change, and that the future is never completely certain. And therefore never completely predictable.
Uncertainty, in itself, is neither a good thing nor a bad thing. It is simply the way life is. While uncertainty means that you may get a bad outcome in the future, it also means that you may get a good outcome, one that is better than you had expected or hoped for.
Thus you can see the game of life as one of managing risks and probabilities. For each potential course of action, you consider the potential outcomes, gains, losses, costs and trade-offs, and the probabilities of each of these actually occurring. Then you make your decisions, and you play.
You'll win some and you'll lose some. But if you consistently play well, chances are high that over time, you win a lot more than you lose. And the world has plenty of room for winners. It's not a zero-sum game.
The problem with many Singaporeans, as I see it, is that they don't even know what their game is about. They don't know what they're playing for. They just blindly follow what everyone else around them seems to be doing. They blindly aspire to what everyone else around them seems to be aspiring to.
You were born an original. Don't die a copy. Find your own path.
(And that applies to everything, not just maids, cars and houses).