Sex is interesting.
Not just for the obvious reasons. But also because the topic provides endless insights into the way society influences and conditions people into thinking the way they do.
The additional complication is that society itself is dynamic. Society keeps changing, but the thoughts, morals and beliefs of those who had been previously conditioned don't always evolve at equal speed.
Today, we have a 2nd-year NUS economics student writing in the Straits Times about the merits of virginity. Let's just take a quick look.
May 30, 2005 - A shame that virginity has gone the way of the dodo.The important question for Lee Wan Yi is -
By Lee Wan Yi
Whatever has happened to saving one's virginity till after marriage?
Lest I am labelled a prude, let me say that I have no problem with people who have pre-marital sex. It's their choice, just as it's mine not to indulge in it.
I am neither conservative nor repressed - I simply know what I value. Virginity is the best gift a woman can present to her husband.
what if the man doesn't mind? I think that today, many men, when choosing a bride, would not regard the virginity or otherwise of the potential candidate as an important criterion. The woman's virginity thus may not be much of a gift for these men.
The other interesting question is -
if virginity is the best gift a woman can give her husband, is virginity also the best gift that a man can give his wife? If not, why not? The answer probably has something to do with old-fashioned notions pre-dating feminism. You know. The days when women were ... not equal.
I also wonder whether Wan Yi is aware that female virgins command a much higher price in the prostitution trade. (To such extent that some unscrupulous pimps have the hymens of their women restitched again and again, so that they can pass off as virgins and fetch more money).
Why do virgins command a higher price? Ummm. I hate to be crude. But I think it is at least partly to do with the customer's anticipated greater satisfaction. A virgin's vaginal passage is tighter and will therefore be more pleasurable to the man.
If Wan Yi realised that the value of a woman's virginity lies at least partly in this lusty idea, then I think she might (rightfully, as a female) feel more than a little revolted. And she might think less of the merits of virginity as a gift to her future husband.